I love my husband and I found myself thinking about just how lucky I am one evening as I was sitting on the couch. He was sitting on his side and I was sitting on mine. We each had a glass of wine resting on our respective end table and our sweet puppy, Belle was curled up in between us while we watched old reruns of Psych.
A typical image in my house and how we generally end each day.
I Love My Husband
Some people might say this is pretty unromantic and boring. But I feel like I’ve hit the jackpot with this guy. We aren’t trying to hold up any pretenses here. No secrets, resentment, or pent up frustrations. Just total acceptance of each other and an underlying trust that we have each other’s backs. At the end of each day, we’ll end up back together on that couch, relaxed, watching our favorite shows. Together.
There’s a beautiful sense of peace and comfort in knowing that we’re on this journey together.
Through thick and thin.
No matter what.
Comfort Can Be a Problem
There is beauty hidden in many of the seemingly mundane, routine marriages out there. But, it’s easy to get comfortable and even though I love my husband, I may forget to tell him just how much I value what we have together. If I’m not careful, neglect can lead to spiraling deterioration of our relationship and I definitely want to avoid that.
Date night is certainly one way to feed our relationship but I honestly don’t think it matters if we do date night or not, as long as we’re reconnecting and checking in with each other regularly.
These regular check-ins keep us traveling on this journey together; having each other’s back, and working toward a common goal in raising our family and managing our households.
A Tool to Show Appreciation
So, as I sat there on the couch, enjoying reruns of Psych with my husband, I decided to put together a little tool for me to use to show him how much I appreciate our beautifully boring marriage because underneath the chaos of parenthood and the outside world, a boring marriage makes the crazy so much easier to manage.
I’ve made this tool available to you too. It’s a free download. Just click and print. You can give it to him as a letter on one sheet, or print on card stock and cut it into separate cards to hide for him to find. Whatever is more meaningful for you.
P.S. It is my mission to encourage connection in a busy world, because connection is the key to living a more meaningful and joy-filled life. This post is true to my mission because it upholds the idea of remaining connected in our marriages. Marriage requires maintenance and using this tool for showing appreciation will help strengthen the connection by reminding us what we value in our spouse and why we got married in the first place.